Monday, March 19, 2007
the ten questions
James Lipton on "Inside the Actors Studio" asks each actor the following questions at the end of the show. i usually hate canned things but these questions are actually really revealing. So i figured i'd run em. i will use all the words i want, so be forewarned.
ps that's will ferrell, not james lipton ...
1. What is your favorite word?
my favorite word is yes. the word that goes with it is no. they belong together.
2. What is your least favorite word?
my least favorite word is "need." as in, "i need this from you," which i'm learning is really about not having clarity about what i want. so, when people say to me, "i need this," i try to listen to what they are telling me they want. and when people say to me, "you need to do this," i try to listen to why i can't stand it to hear that ... and then be present with them while they tell me what they want.
3. What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally?
courage. c s lewis says that every virtue when it's at its deepest place, is courage. love is courage. integrity is courage. compassion is courage.
i'm not always courageous. but i am learning to be.
4. What turns you off?
arrogance - which is just about fear.
5. What is your favorite curse word?
"shit." it's a great all-purpose word. i don't even stop myself from saying it. except on sunday mornings at journey, and that's a struggle.
6. What sound or noise do you love?
quiet - especially in nature. which isn't quiet, but it's not human sounds. i like the quiet when the journeyers are breathing when we're gathering ourselves and our hearts together. i like the quiet when my family or a child are sleeping.
and i love laughter. oh, wait, that's two sounds.
7. What sound or noise do you hate?
i used to hate crying - which was just about my own fear of opening up and feeling anything unpleasant. plus, growing up was very sucky and had a lot of crying in it, and i wanted to distance myself from that sound because of what it reminded me of.
now i believe in crying, my own and other people's, even though it's not always comfortable for me. but it's worth it.
the sound or noise i hate is the tape in my head that tells me "you can't do this."
i also believe that that tape in my head is worthy of listening to. but not listening to.
8. What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?
9. What profession would you not like to do?
corporate lawyer, or anything having to do with screwing over the little person.
10. If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?
a. god exists.
b. i don't believe that there are pearly gates - they're a metaphor. but it's a nice image. the metaphor i like better is "the arms that love extends."
c. what i want god to say is, "yes."
i actually believe that god will say "yes" to me ... and to every being that has been in this earthly experience. and that doesn't have anything to do with "who goes to heaven." i don't give a shit. it's not about that for me.