Wednesday, July 25, 2007

do not say a damn thing

this is because of friends of mine.

if you have never had a problem with alcoholism, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never struggled with a drug problem, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never had a troubled marriage, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been divorced, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never had an extramarital affair, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been the person cheated on, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never lost someone whom you loved, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been addicted, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never had a problem with pornography, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never had depression, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been unfairly treated because of your skin color, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never treated someone unfairly because of their skin color, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been unfairly treated because you were homosexual, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never treated someone unfairly because they were homosexual, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never committed a sexual offense, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been the survivor of a sexual offense, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been mistreated by religion, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never mistreated anyone because of your religion, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never stolen anything, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never hurt anyone, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been sick, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been alone, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never wanted to hurt someone, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been poor or homeless, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been rich or privileged, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never lied, cheated, broken the rules, said the wrong thing, done the wrong thing, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been a fuckup, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been a disaster and ended up in the ditch, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never succeeded, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never failed, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never had a crisis of faith, or doubts, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never had to face temptation in the desert with your shadow, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been to the cross, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.
if you have never been imperfect, do not say a damn thing to anyone who has. do not judge. get over yourself.

and when i say "get over yourself," i mean it with great compassion and love. and that's the truth.
and a different translation of "get over yourself" could be "shut the fuck up." and i mean THAT in great compassion and love. absolutely. it is a gift. it will help you, if you listen to me.

look in the mirror. no, deeper.
no. look even deeper. even deeper than that.
look at yourself with great compassion and love. and don't blink. don't shy away. it's alright.
you're alright.
so is everyone else.
yes, your enemies too.
especially them.

3 comments:

writeright007 said...

AMEN REVRIN TO THE WHOLE KIT AND CABOODLE!
But i have to take exception to the part about our enemies are "ok too?"

when you are burnt so many times one has to think ... how many times do I have to go back into the fire before one learns its hot and hurts?
i don't worry about those negative experiences . i just remind myself not to be vunerable around them.

well i cannot claim i do not feel the pain and i am sure there are many more things i need to learn about this topic.

but thats where i am here and now.

i enjoyed your writing exercise thou shalt not judge. "shut the
F--k up!"well said rick!

revrin rick said...

hey whiteright
yeah, those enemies ... ugh.
i'm there too.
here's what i'm learning: i can love my enemies and know, with true compassion, that they are just human beings like me. that they are full of gold, and shadow, just like me. that they are just doing the best they can, just like me.
that doesn't mean that i allow myself to be harmed by them. i practice healthy boundaries and insist, for myself AND for the sake of those whom i have felt to be my "enemies," that those boundaries stay strong. they're semi-permeable membranes, and can change and grow, but still.
keep those boundaries. yay.
it's the judging that i'm addressing in this blog. you got that.

without a fault, riiiiight said...

Well didn't you just take all the fun out of Paris Hilton, Lindsey Lohan, Britney Spears, and the rest of humanity. Man your a drag.

Your right, but it is absolutely no fun pointing in the mirror. My crap is way to real to, well, crappy to show the rest of the world for its judgment. Yea, I know I am broken, messed up, f.....ed up to actually judge anyone; but it does make for good sport.